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第7章 通往幸福的旅途OurPursuitofHappiness（第3页）

秘诀就在于，我们以积极的心态面对逆境，变压力为动力。

幸福并不是祈求我们所没有的，而是享受我们所拥有的。

Wechaseafterit，whenitiswaitingallaboutus.

“Areyouhappy？”

Iaskedmybrother，Lan，odependsonwhatyoumean.”

hesaid.

&ellme，”

Iasked，“wheimeyouthinkyou>

“April1967.”

hesaid.

Itservedmerightfaseriousquestiontosomeonewhohasjokedhiswaythroughlife.ButLan’sanswerremiwhehinkabouthappiness，weusuallythiraordinary，apinnacleht—andthosepirarertheet.

Forachild，happinesshasamagicalquality.Iremembermakisihay，playingdrobbersinthewoods，gettingaspeakingpartintheschoolplay.Ofcourse，kidsalsoexperietheirdelightatsuchpeaksofpleasureaswinniinganewbikeisunreserved.

Ieeheceptofhappinessges.Suddenlyit’salonsugsasext，love，popularityazitbefht.Istillfeeltheagonyofedtoapartythatalmosteveryoneelsewasgoingto.ButIalsorecalltheecstasyofbeingpluobscurityataodahaJohnTravoltalook-alike.

Inadulthoodthethingsthatbringprofoundjoy—birth，le—alsresponsibilityandtheriskofloss.Lovemaynotlast，sexisn’talwaysgood，lovedonesdie.Foradults，happinessisplicated.

Mydiarydefineshappyas“lucky”

or“fortuhiionofhappihecapaent.”

Themorewejoywhatwehave，thehappierweare.It’seasytooverlookthepleasurewegetfromlovingandbeihepahefreedomtolivewhereweplease，andeveh.

Iaddedupmylittlemomentsofpleasureyesterday.FirsttherewassheerblisswhenIshutthelastlundhadthehousetomyself.Theaedm，whichIlove.Whenthekidse，Ieheirhequietoftheday.

Later，peadedagain，andmyhusbandandIeherpleasure—intimaesjustthekhewantsmegmejoy.

Youneverknoiur.WhenIaskedfriendswhatmakesthemhappy，somementionedseeminglyinsignifients.“Ihateshopping，”

onefriendsaid.“butthere’saclerkwhoalwaysdreallycheersmeup.”

Anotherfrieelephoimeitrings，Ikhinkingaboutme.”

&hrillfr.Ooppedtoletaschoolbusturnohedrivergrinnedahumbsupsigwoalliesinaworldofmadmotorists.Itmademesmile.

erieslikethese.Toofewisterthemashappiness.

Psychologiststellusthattobehappyweneedablendofenjoyableleisuretimeandsatisfyingwork.Idoubtthatmygreat-grandmother，whoraised14andtookinwashing，hadmuchofeither.Shedidhaveaworkofclosefriendsandfamily，ahiswaswhatfulfilledher.Ifsheywithwhatshehad，perhapsitwasbecauseshedidobeverydifferent.

&heotherhand，withsomanydsuchpressuretosueveryarea，haveturnedhappiwe“gottahave.”

We’resoself-sciousabht”

toitthatit’smakingusmiserable.Sowechaseitahwealthahoutnotigthatthepeoplewhohavethosethinecessarilyhappier.

inessmaybemoreplexforus，thesolutionisthesameasever.Happiaboutenstous—it’sabouthowweperceiveenstous.It’stheknadingapositivefative，andviewibackasage.It’snotwishingforwhatwedoenjoyingossess.